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Hi everybody! I’m very happy to see you again, how’s it going?!
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The tips I’m going to share today, I love because they will show your significant other, your care and your thoughtfulness, and they’ll also help improve the overall quality of your relationship, and help you two solidify your bond together.
Ask me anything you want below or on Twitter and Instagram with #askAlexandraP Grab your journal to take notes and let me start by sharing something interesting that I read. So… According to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, people report withholding their affection from heir romantic partners an average of five times per week. I think the fear is to not go overboard and potentially overwhelm the other with emotions and I agree that there’s such thing as too much, but I think that people in general want to feel loved, want to feel affection and want to feel that close intimacy. And if you DO acts that show love, you don’t need to be “Oh baby… muah muah muah muah…” – all clingy!!
And that’s what this video is all about. Now you don’t have to do all these things all together every day so you don’t feel self conscious like “Was that too much?” – so I’ll make a note on each tip, with what I think the right frequency could be. Take that, adapt it to your lifestyle and you’ll be good to go!
So Tip #1: “I love you” – if this is something that you feel, you should say it regularly. But it’s not the only way you can verbally express your affection. So I recommend also using compliments like “I’m lucky to have you”, “You’re amazing”, “Thank you for being wonderful” – because expressions like that typically make people feel loved and appreciated and they’ll want to reciprocate.
Now If he is not giving you a reason to say something like that, go down memory lane and bring about something your partner did in the past that made you feel wonderful, and verbalize that, just make sure that it’s relevant somehow to your conversation and it doesn’t look like it’s brought up out of nowhere. Example: if you see a man opening the door for somebody else, “Honey, do you remember how you used to open the car door for me? That was so nice and it made me feel so special. Thank you for those wonderful times. I really loved that” – whatever, silly example so I can make the idea clear that it’s a compliment that also encourages the other to duplicate the act.
#2. Think about how you two interact. When we're separated from our partners all day because of work and such, we tend to talk over texts or emails, right? And for most, those messages have a tendency to be very stiff and businessy sounding. So I recommend adding a more loving nature to your conversation by always ending it with something affectionate like: “I love you very much”. “Thank you darling”. “Thinking of you” or “Can’t wait to see you tonight”.
And if you’re the kind of couple that texts a lot during the week, I suggest not allowing the written word to replace the vocal affection, which is much more personal. So every once in a while, break the pattern by calling the other person.
Run your hands up and down his back. It’s a very intimate and comforting gesture.
Kiss with meaning! Pecking is cute, but not romantically sustainable. To make your kisses count, you should close your eyes, hold the other person, relax your lips, and stay there a little bit after the kiss. Smile a little and maintain eye contact with the other person after the kiss as you’re moving your head away.
And also kiss him on his face, top of the head, hands, etc .
Next you should always hold hands. No matter how long you’ve been with each other, the act of holding hands immediately increases the physical affection for each other, it cements your bond and keeps you two bonded. Hold hands anytime you can: Walking down the street, on the couch watching TV or the dinner table. You’re a team and your interaction should reflect that.
Tip #6. Make your greetings feel gooood. When your man comes back home, make the arrival home something they look forward to. For example when my husbands comes home, I typically say “Welcome home my love’ I give him a hug for a couple of solid seconds, then I grab his face, kiss him and help take his backpack off. This is a very easy way to make the relationship more affectionate and give the other person healthy reasons to look forward to coming home.
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Before you leave, I’d love for you to remember that the idea is to lead by example. If you want romance, you have to give romance. If you want thoughtfulness, you gotta set the tone by giving thoughtfulness. Comment below with some loving, thoughtful acts you do, please like and subscribe to my channel if this inspired you, and I can’t wait to see you next week in a new Fashion and Beauty video.
I love you for watching today, good luck in your relationship and in everything that you do!
Kisses :)
