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Some of the things that we talked about, were the 6 steps toward becoming the most perfect partner that YOU can be.
Today, I've put together some detailed questions that you can use to ask yourself, as part of the process. They go side by side with the video, and they can help you better sort through your thoughts, for each one of these steps. I also included some beautiful quotes that you can share with your loved one. Surprise him/or her TODAY (or first chance available) with a note, or a text, in which you write down one of these beautiful quotes. It will bring about joy :-)
Step #1 – Outlining
Some questions that you can ask yourself are: "Where do I have doubts in my relationship?"
"What are some of my concerns?" (that are on YOUR end in the relationship)
"Where do I feel I'm not good enough?"
"What are some things that I could do better?"
"Where do I need to improve?"
"In what areas of my relationship do I think I can do better?".
Step #2 – Prioritizing
"What matters most to me?"
"What should I improve first?"
"What's the first thing if improved, will seriously better our relationship?"
"What's most important to the both of us?".
Step #3 – Identifying
"What would be the ideal scenario?"
"In a perfect world, how would this look like?"
"What do I think would be the perfect picture, that will make us both happy and satisfied?"
"What would be the 'perfect' goal?"
– "Is this scenario realistic to both of our schedules?", "Knowing me and my time, is this perfect-goal doable?", "Can this goal be achieved consistently?".
– "How did I come up with this goal?", "When did I start wanting this?","What makes me think that achieving this goal would make my relationship better?", "Do I want to do this for sure?", "Is this somebody else's influence?".
– "Is this goal something I know for sure my partner absolutely wants?", "Does he/she Really want this?", "Is this perfect goal something I know for sure he/or she wants? Or is it something I 'think' he wants?"
Step #4 – The Why and How
"Why do I want to make these changes?"
"What will accomplishing these goals, bring into my life?"
"What's my motivation?"
"If we stay where we are, how and where will we be in 2 years from now?"
"Do I believe these changes will better our relationship?"
"How am I going to feel once I accomplish these goals?"
"How will our relationship be like?"
"Will accomplishing these goals make me feel like I'm doing my best?"
"Will I be happy in knowing that I'm doing my best?"
"Does this have a shot at bettering our relationship?" / "Does this have a shot at making our relationship even better?"
"Will we get along better?"
"Will we both be more satisfied?".
"Will this increase our chances of having a healthy and happy relationship?"
Step #5 – The Plan
Say this out-loud with me: I am smart. I am resourceful and creative. If I put my mind to this, I will figure out a way. There is always a way!
"What is my solution?"
"What are some things that will help me accomplish this goal?"
"What could I do to better in this area?"
– Here, I would like for you to look Everywhere for inspiration. Magazines, newspapers, blogs, TV and radio shows… I.e. If you'd like to look more sexy in the bedroom, open up a Victoria's Secret catalog. Find the blend between the sexiness that you want, and Your Own personal limits. Push your boundaries a little bit though, get out of your comfort zone! New results will never come if we keep doing the same thing over and over again. Do a search on Pinterest and Instagram, find pictures of what you want your goals to look like, and get inspired. Take that concept and make it YOURS. Make it look, and sound and feel, the way it speaks to YOU.
If you don't say I LOVE YOU enough, or don't express enough appreciation – set yourself a weekly reminder on your phone. On that day that works best for you (or those dayS depending on your goal), Google for some poetic inspiration. Use the love quotes I have for you below. Send an "I love you" text. "I'm thinking of you." "Thank you for being in my life!". "I'm so happy and grateful to be in your life and have you in mine."
Step #6 – The Reward
"What do I love doing?"
"What relaxes me?"
"What's something that I could do Right Now, that would bring me joy?"
"What gives my mind a rest?".
"What would make me smile?"
Use any sequence of questions that speak to you, individually. PER GOAL. Personally? I used all of them because you can never be too sure! Now enjoy some the love quotes I've gathered. Put them to good use. Reach out and surprise your lover. Do it now! :)
Love Quotes:
"What is love? In math: an equation; in history: a war; in chemistry: a reaction; in art: a heart; in me: YOU."
“Love is needing someone. Love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow complete you.”
"If I could chose between loving you and breathing I would use my last breathe to say I love you."
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
“You are, and always have been, my dream.”
“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.”
"Everyone says that loves hurts, but that's not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Everyone confuse these things with love but reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes us feel wonderful again."
"Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control."
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